“Life should be easy”. Nope, life in the modern world has many difficulties, and that's just how it is. No need to make yourself miserable with this expectation that everything should be easy and great. When things go well, and the modern world provides enough stability for things to work, then that's great. But those things shouldn't be taken for granted. Prosperity is not the default state in life or History.
“I am a good person”. I want to live well and be honest, but I have no interest whatsoever in changing the world. I don't think that necessarily makes me a bad person, but in the eyes of many this doesn't make me a good one, and I'm becoming increasingly fine with that. I'm playing my own games my own way, and that's that. Less justifying myself, more doing.
“You should strive to be consistent with your work”. Being consistent really helped me with school, in order to get myself through classes in a way that didn't involve me doing everything last minute. With things I am personally interested in however, I do not find it sustainable, because it eventually leads me to force myself to do what used to come naturally. It seems to me that consistency and schedules can work for some people, but not for me, at least not over a long period of time.
“Saying yes is good”. I have been so bad at saying 'no' that this idea is pretty bad for me. Saying 'no' to things I don't care much about has given me a lot more energy for what I genuinely care about.
“You should strive for work-life balance”. I get energized from the right type of work. Treating all work as bad is a very limiting lens, but on the other hand, a lot of work really sucks, so this one has been somewhat useful too